Never forget that a video game is a video game, nothing more. I want to finish college, I thought breaking free from video games would grant me the focus and the strength to squeeze every minute of the day towards trying to get through college. It can become really frustrating, particularly when it happens extremely frequently. I engage in class. [–]Miguelinileugim 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (16 children). I don't hate myself anymore. This was done in incredibly boring ways, with Metal and Crystal resources building up over time, so you could upgrade your Metal and Crystal mining… So you go lift weights one day, and then don't go back to the gym ever again. I tried quite a few times to either control or moderate my gaming, and nothing worked. There was (and is) an immense amount of this kind of stuff in my life, so learning how to deal with it in a good and healthy way took a lot of time and a willingness to learn how to live life very differently than I had at any point in the past. Keep off the games, and try one new thing everyday. It's like saying if I stop drinking Cola I will gain super powers. Sometimes everyday, sometimes once per week, sometimes for hours and hours. Remember that playing games like these too much can cause you to get paranoid, and the often tense atmosphere can leave you quite on edge once you stop playing. I could only carve out an hour maybe 3 times a week, and I gave up after an hour long session where I basically spent a lot of it trying to remember what I was suppose to do, then trying to figure out where to go, and before I did anything remotely satisfying or fun, I'd run out of time. [–]TheLoneGreyWolf992 days 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (1 child). Given you have the chance to go into a video game, what would you do to ensure the most resources for yourself? Well I've never been normal. I'm thinking about stop playing video games since my ps3 broke and I don't use my psp any more so I think it's a good time to stop… Worst of all, to avoid having to get another job I deceived my parents by pretending to have a job at a restaurant and again at an internet cafe. Working a 12 Step program has helped a lot. This thread is archived. I think the most important part to find as quickly as possible is the social equivalent IRL. If you want to see where I was when I first quit, it's here: I battled depression, struggled with low self-esteem and “feeling good enough.”. Personally i really miss gaming atm, but i think that's peoples experience at least :), [–]jotakami2230 days 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children). So just know you are not alone. If you want to stop playing video games, gradually reduce your playtime and focus on other things. But only if you keep continuing with the improvments, you will eventually gain something). This is the muscle I've been exercising the most (and I fail a lot, which sucks, but it's part of the process). It's something you have to work at. 4 months just seem like a long time with no real improvement.. Just bored out of my mind watching daily vlogs and stuff instead because i dont function as a social person. [–]Miguelinileugim 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children), Fascinating, thanks for telling me all of that! Listen to The Art of Charm podcast. Then I decide what's next on the list - exercise? You have to take action. Also yeah I do a few pushups and stuff, but they don't make me happy :(, [–]TheLoneGreyWolf992 days 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (3 children), I don't know how long a little while is. I play video games 4 hours a day every day,so i spend 28 hours on video games each week. Not a particularly popular or well known MMO, they call it a “browser-based, money-management and space-war themed massively multiplayer online browser game”. When I quit I did it because I wanted to improve my social skills and start living my life to the fullest. Get an ad-free experience with special benefits, and directly support Reddit. Think about it like you are the character you get to build in this world, you have different skills and talents, and to improve them you need to go on missions and quests to complete. REDDIT and the ALIEN Logo are registered trademarks of reddit inc. π Rendered by PID 25165 on r2-app-0455a2cc00fe93812 at 2020-12-24 01:08:07.567130+00:00 running 6abf2be country code: US. Enough is enough, it's time to stop writing bullshit articles and trying to force a message. I was addicted to gaming for 10 years. ), I’m surrounded by a great group of friends who inspire me. save. But he’s still finding ways to play it. The more you do things, the less tedious they'll become, that's for sure. My experience was different though. :). Reading a book became entertaining again when I got rid of constant stimulation. Those won't be fun. I’m Cam. How long did you take until you became a normal human being again? I was in and out of jobs all the time, lasted two days as a landscaper, worked as a dishwasher at Earls, lasted about a week stocking shelves at Walmart, and disappeared from my jobs at Papa Johns Pizza and Booster Juice. Former gamers of reddit, what was the reason you stopped playing video games altogether, or a lot less frequently? It's pretty great, actually, I focus a lot better now. I could go on for a while about the changes I've seen in my life as a result of working a good recovery program, but that would take more time and typing than I care for right now. [–]Miguelinileugim 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (4 children), Time, that's great, however energy? I've already added that video to my watchlist! 90% Upvoted. Go do a push up :D. But but but how much is "a little while"? Weird I get to use my professional credential to answer a gaming question…. I’ve traveled all around the world. :(, The thing about videogames is that it actually fucks with your dopamine receptors (insert science terms blah blah blah). [–]navi-thejedimaster 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children). It hasn't been easy but over the years it's all snowballed into big improvements in my life. Then, reduce it to 1 hour a day to make things easier for yourself. It’s a curse to enjoy the very thing that also makes you hate yourself. It's hard, exhausting, and prone to failure at the worst possible moments. Any time I wasn’t playing, I’d think about the next time I could play. Here are some examples that may surprise you.Subscribe for more: If you’re looking for recommendations, we have you covered. The cool thing about motivation is that it gets you in the door, but the thing that's even more powerful than motivation is self-discipline. I actually do find a lot of things interesting that other people don't notice. It opened up a lot of time and energy to do other things with. So...all of that happened, and made life much better than it ever was before...but none of that would have been able to happen if I'd still been gaming. It depends on where you are starting from. My only problem is how to socialize, when you know you've always sucked at it, and it can make you fear from starting it again, but I try to improve myself, because I'm at the point now when I say : F*ck all the games, I want to do something, because I see those who don't play have better life. I'm bipolar, so I picked up a book, An Unquiet Mind, that is pretty true to some of my experiences. All the accounts I had, over 300 games owned, all scheduled for deletion. (Currently writing this in Thailand, country #20), I’ve given two TEDx talks. In order to lose a habit, we need to replace it with another one. Having tons of funs online with friends will be more fun than not being with friends IRL. But once you are with friends IRL and have gotten used to not gaming, i think it can be nice. Get Into Esports. I started working more hours, but I couldn’t stop playing video games. I contribute this partially to genetics - a history of drug and alcohol abuse in my family including both parents, and mental illness (i'm also bipolar) - but the other part is that I can work my way through it. (It's good to quit! "Hey I want to go lift weights today!" and join one of thousands of communities. How long did it take until you had the energy again to do things? So here goes! Now I've set my goals very high. The first 10 sessions are free, so it's a good place to start. 18.9k comments. © 2020 reddit inc. All rights reserved. Since I was still thinking about gaming and/or doing other escapist activities all the time, life didn't particularly improve and I would always go back to the games at some point. Wake up and make your bed. Sorry if im not on right subreddit , just tell me and i will delete the post. Read How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie, read The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson, start hanging out in environments where you can meet people and practice interacting. Elon is a big book guy, and on his top 10 reading list was a book about benjamin franklin. I'm a straight A student, I'm self-employed (created my own job, making ~ triple minimum wage while having fun), but most importantly I'm happy. My advice for all my StopGaming folks, you're not really gonna go anywhere if you just stop playing games yet you do nothing else. You need to get out of your comfort zone in order to archieve things. save hide report. Depressed, I pretended to have jobs and deceived my family. Everyday you wake up, try to do that, and once you've mastered it (and you do it everyday), and on flossing your teeth. Right now my real problem is my job at least that's how I feel for the time being. Ultimately, it's the other changes that I see as being the big ones that have made my life SOOOO much more worthwhile. take a bath? ), I learned to DJ and even performed in Prague. The first step was to be able to focus on the book - after getting rid of flashing lights, multiple links, checking the fucking minimap every two seconds, articles I skim, etc., I was able to sit down and read. [–]TheLonelyGiraffe1632 days 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children), Then do something to get better socially. Anyway I hope I get better this week! Playing video games may begin as an innocent hobby, but can turn into your comfort zone where you try to escape reality.It can become an addiction, and you may unconsciously leave all other aspects of life behind. (DJing is one of my biggest passions now. bitch on reddit? Uninstalling forced me to find something else than gaming. Technically yes, depending on the game. low-esteem, struggling with women, only gamer friends, lack of socializing skills... EVERY words just describe me now. Go out! If we engage our mind in something for a long time every day, it … That was good. It starts with recognizing where you are at, and where you want to go. :D, Also, not fapping is bad for your health if you're a man, and it is still harmful if you're a woman, I think that once a day, average not median, is pretty darn good! There are things you can do that will speed up the pace of change though. Lots of games can lag. When I quit learning to be social was my #1 goal and it's taken some time but I've managed to make a lot of progress as well. Goodluck sir! I have been bored of gaming for years but I still feel urges to play them and when I do I'm excited prior to playing them but when I play them I'm bored and can't have fun no matter what game I play. I successfully did not game for 1 day and a half, Friend straight up told me “I’m addicted to league. 0. I want to help but feel it’s not my place to police his gaming. I don't mean to share this to "brag", I just want you to see that there are real improvements you can make if you stick with it + focus on learning what you need to learn to improve: Here are a few highlights of what I’ve accomplished since I quit gaming: More importantly, I’m happier than I’ve ever been, I’m proud of who I am and I wake up excited to be alive and live my life to the fullest. I did it! I've wanted to start my own business for a while now, so I checked up on Elon Musk (he started his own business to say the least). If I feel bad - fap - feel out of energy afterwards. [–]Miguelinileugim 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children), That's interesting, what are you studying anyway? (A big dream of mine! Thanks :D. No-fap isn't fighting nature. [–]coconut_radio 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children). Archived. My first experience with these feelings came from OGame. At what age did you stop playing video games? For example, improving your social skills or learning a language. [–]Drev92830 days 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (1 child). On No-Fap they say it takes 30 days to refresh your system (whatever that means). homework? Posted by 1 year ago. Some people see huge changes in two months, and others take two years or more to see the same changes. 20 Reasons to Quit Playing Video Games. The thing is, you got good at gaming which means you can apply the same strategies to get good at your social skills. I'm always struggling with lack of energy and motivation, as if I had some extreme ADHD, how long would you say until I can feel anything other than apathy and light boredom? I dislike chores, if that's what you're asking. Personally, I experience games as an addiction, so what alcohol is to an alcoholic, video games of all kinds are to me. But just wondering, exactly how many weeks or months until your cravings stopped and simple things like reading a book became entertaining again? It may seem like a stupid question, but i've sold my gaming pc 3 or 4 times now and been without it for up to 4 months at a time, but after a while i always get back to gaming because im really bad socially and the people i talk to from college are gamers as well. But when I tried martial arts again after a very long time (half a decade), I felt a kind of high. It will take a little while to go back to normal, but you can make it better by trying to do something else. As video games have gotten more technically advanced, they’ve also gotten more entrancing. Definitely! Rendered by PID 25165 on r2-app-0455a2cc00fe93812 at 2020-12-24 01:08:07.567130+00:00 running 6abf2be country code: US. While video games can teach certain skills or be educational, many children spend too many hours with a controller in their hand. How to Get Your Child to Stop Playing Video Games. Sex is part of life, so is masturbation. Sort by. Because of this, video game addicts might end up with a lot of debt. I hit diamond in league, quit, now I'm hitting diamond GPA. Here is the thing about motivation that I learned recently. David Livermore (author) from Bakersfield, California, United States on April 24, 2018: Your parents already are aware you spend too much time gaming. I was decent at League reaching Gold II with over 30 friends I've met playing the game. You'll never have a chore where you have to scrape mold off of your floor that will be fun (unless you're a micro biologist... then you might microscope that mold). "Playing video games is a challenge." I don't know what to do if i stop with games , i go out with my friends on weekends , but all the time im home all i do is playing video games i don't find anything else fun.. Which game would you choose? It has negatively affected my finances that's for sure. etc. I lacked confidence in general, especially with women, was constantly put in the dreaded friend zone and didn’t feel attractive as a man. I have my own business and work for myself. Alright, I've bit the bullet. Going to a friends house seems like good advice, except their friends are likely also playing video games, so now you are just making the problem worse, and limiting the time you play never works at all. To create this article, 12 people, some anonymous, worked to edit and improve it over time. Man, I dont know who you are, but when I read your lines, I thought you logged in with my account, and wrote my life down. With that being said, I don't trade the time I've spent with her for a freaking video game, but I've subscribed to Masterclass and Rosetta Stone and a graphic design course and knowing I'm starting at the bottom and how hard all of those can be have really made me struggle. 10. could that possibly happen just because of not playing videogames? In answer to the opening question, yes, absolutely, but not as directly as you might think. (self.StopGaming). Going to the gym was boring; doing martial arts lead me to become my character, only this time, it's in real life, which is great. My life used to be a complete mess. I've always been very competitive and had a strong desire to be the best. Some people take their love of video games a bit too far. Here are a few of the highlights. There are many things that I want to do but since my job brings me a world of stress I am trying to simplify my life by just focusing on one hobby; a replacement for video games if you will. Young men, in particular, are spending more time playing. OGamewas basically a fancy spreadsheet with some not-so-fancy images of spaceships and planets and lasers and all kinds of sci-fi shenanigans. Inability to Stop Playing Video Games One year after I had left school my Japanese level still wasn’t good enough to get approved in the exam. Switched outlets. best. Gaming was getting in the way of it all :(, [–]Miguelinileugim 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (6 children), My problem is that I'm depressed because of underestimulation... how long did it take until you regained your energy back? hide. Advertisement. :), [–]Miguelinileugim 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (2 children). If you play for a few hours a day, try only playing for 2 hours a day for the first week. share. I had little education, had dropped out of high school twice and never graduated, had no desire to go back or to ever go to college. Try meetups and get out of the house more. Uninstalling my games allowed me to change myself to a better person. Eventually it becomes habitual. These two habits in particular are like a strong foundation in your life that you can use to start adding other things to. If you want to take your life to the next level, you’re going to need to stop playing so many video games (I’m speaking from personal experience here as a former gamer). But gaming can become problematic when it starts being prioritized over your relationships, career and obligations. A normal human being? I've nailed quitting videogames, but no fap is... hard :D If you have asked yourself this question, then the answer to it is often found behind the reason why you asked yourself this question in the first place. Search our huge selection of new and used video games at fantastic prices at GameStop. Computer Randomly Freezes When Playing Games on Windows 10 "I have recently upgraded Windows 10 from 32 bit to 64 bit and now my games are randomly locking up on me.The game freezes, with the sound looped (very short sample, so it just sounds like buzzing), and sometimes resumes after a second or two, other times stays locked up. Anyway. Not only that, but I didn’t even know how to make friends. It's what keeps you going back to the gym. These are all things that go through my mind now. It was my job to make things happen. Four months is awesome, but everyone see changes at a different pace. That game is only like 6 hours long and you can finish it in one or two sittings (I did, since I couldn´t stop playing) A nice little game like Rayman can also help. Sorry if im not on right subreddit , just tell me and i … At the moment I am trying to find a productive hobby. (When I first quit my only friends were fellow gamers who held me back. I don't recommend the pure willpower approach (aka "white-knuckling"). [–]TheLoneGreyWolf992 days 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (17 children). For example, if you commit to stop playing video games for 90 days, but you still do your same old daily routine, chances are you're more likely to relapse. If you want to improve your social skills, you need to go on missions that will help you facilitate that. 22 comments. Motivation is a spark, an idea, something that gets you to start a new activity or follow up on a new idea. I still crave videogames. How to Make a Video Game Stop Lagging on Windows. [–]LearningSerenity2558 days 4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (0 children). It was extremely difficult for me at first, partly because once I quit gaming and started doing a decent job avoiding all of my other escapist behaviors, I began needing to deal with all of the stuff my addiction had kept me from noticing the whole time. report. And then learning what you need to to get there. If I start, I can't stop...and sadly, I lack the ability to prevent myself from starting. I am desperately trying my best not to fall back to video games. Most children love video games. Thanks for the comment, I'm going now to uninstall every shit from my pc. When I'm not playing video games I'm looking up 6 hours of gaming videos per day. [–]camerondare3578 days 5 points6 points7 points 5 years ago (2 children). The reason they are playing video games is to avoid studying! Three things keep me energized: A healthy amount of sleep (and a consistent sleep cycle), three meals with snacks in between (meaning enough calories to keep me going), and exercise (it started as lifting weights, but now I just play basketball for hours - hoop is life!!). I hope all goes well for you. I'm now pretty darn depressed actually, not even some light reddit keeps me sane :(, [–]TheLoneGreyWolf992 days 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (5 children). ... Now when I play video games, I’m playing alone, in a dark corner, sleep deprived and miserable — ignoring my dreams for another day of instant gratification. Hello , im 17 years old and all the time im stuck at home playing games ( 5000 hours of Dota 2 , and more then 1500 hours in other games like CS:GO) I want to quit games because it effects my grades at school and my social life( to make thing worse i have social anxiety , and i think that's why i started playing games,im working on my social anxiety but it takes a lot of time ...) I don't know what to do if i stop with games , i go out with my friends on weekends , but all the time im home all i do is playing video games i don't find anything else fun.. Video games are a great source of entertainment and can be associated with positive health benefits including improved vision, creativity, and cognition when played in moderation. It gets to the point of doing it so many times per day that there are negative consequences for me. To give you an idea of how active I was and the way I was eating, I often drank a Slimfast with my dinner, which was large without the meal replacement drink. It did for me. All of my previous attempts at quitting meant gritting my teeth and forcing myself to not play no matter how much I wanted to. ). People aren’t going to stop playing video games by studying more. It just needs to be one thing as I am not used to having multiple hobbies at once. I picked up that book and it's great! At any given point in my childhood, my strongest desire was probably to play video games. Here’s 20 super solid reasons to massively cut back your time on video games and start taking charge of your life. [–]camerondare3578 days 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children). I worked out regularly but still can't help it whenever I was "tempted". I'm a far more compassionate person than I ever was before, and I'm able to deal with rough times in life without touching a game (which I never used to be able to do). Do everyday activities become at least on the same magnitude of fun as videogames after you stop playing them for long enough? Now I was also a very active athlete in high school, competing in track and football and spending any spare time in the gym, or playing video games. Damn I really want to make breakfast today. It caused me to drop out of high school, and while my friends were off to college, I was living in my parents basement playing video games up to 16 hours a day.. I'm glad I got up early today. What they're helping people (like me) do is get away from the negative effects of doing it too often. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. When/are you going to stop playing video games and why? I like to think that the baby lizard was far more interesting. What's been working for me for the past ~18 months is a 12 Step recovery program focused on gaming addiction. I’m leaving my gaming PC with a friend so I can’t play”. Next I moved to a sci-fi book called Foundation, by Isaac Asimov. Some people (like me) over do a lot of things. But after coming across this question, I felt compelled to share my previous experience with this topic. I sit in the front, I talk to my teacher a lot, and I have a really great time (while learning, of course.) That is literally where I started! What I do find fun, however, is class. I started thinking about what was the time i started playing so much, and I realised it was around the time I stopped playing football/soccer. I deleted snapchat, I avoid using my phone when I'm waiting, I try not to click every reddit link. It´s almost like anti stress therapy in game form and it doesn´t matter if you finish it right away, you can always get back into it. use the following search parameters to narrow your results: StopGaming exists to help those who struggle with or have struggled with compulsive gaming or video game addiction. I have never answered a question here on Quora. Close. No-fap is reaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaal stupid though, it's fighting nature, videogames though are an unnatural distortion, porn is too but I don't believe it's that bad anyway. wikiHow is a “wiki,” similar to Wikipedia, which means that many of our articles are co-written by multiple authors. Everyday activities become fun? View all results for . About This Article. :S, [–]TheLoneGreyWolf992 days 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (3 children), Right - so energy is a tricky thing. Pokémon Sword and Shield, Sunset Overdrive, Stardew Valley, PUBG, Kentucky Route Zero, Persona 5, and more. I found martial arts to be very helpful probable because of the fact that it has an aspect to it where you progress (sort of like leveling up in a game). I looked around and saw a lot of people looking at their phones while walking to class. This gives me the freedom and flexibility to do what I want. Do i just need to hang in there? You'll notice benefits within the first week, for sure, as long as you try your best :). Becoming a social person doesn't just happen. [–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (2 children), Simply uninstalling did not change my life. Make sure you watch this video!! For me, I started seeing really noticeable changes after I began the habits of meditation and writing in a journal. :D. Use of this site constitutes acceptance of our User Agreement and Privacy Policy. Not everyone agrees though. For meditation, try Headspace. But it starts by focusing on learning what you need to learn to get to where you want to be. How to. Oh shit, I really want to go to the gym today. What to do if i quit from playing video games ?. So the fact that I don't game today HAS changed my life...but only because it made possible all the other changes that are really transforming me. Did stopping gaming really improve your life? I haven't figured it out yet. Unknown on June 24, 2018: I play video games just to overcome my stress I didn't that ill be addicted to it.